Blissful Busyness
June 23, 2010 by Coach Margie
Filed under bliss, emotional energy, sustainable energy
Busy, I’m so busy, my head is spinning, yaa, yaa, yaa, I’m so busy! (Insert soundtrack from old Tommy Roe song.) Oh yes, it is a busy time! The Summer Sizzle time, when to do what you want to, and to have the fun you want to have, you must line all your little ducks up and get everything in place.
Is it possible to experience bliss when your head is spinning from details, organizing, and planning? Well, certainly. It’s possible to experience bliss anytime, you just have to choose it!!
Seriously, how can we stay grounded when we are running in many directions, with lots to do, and many other things we want to do? I suggest these 5 elements:
1) Get organized! If you are going to go camping a lot this Summer, get all your gear together in one place. Put stuff in totes so it’s easy to load and unload from the car. Buy special camping kitchen-ware etc., so it can always stay with the camping gear and there is less you have to put together each time you head out for a trip. This allows for spontaneous trips too.
2) Coordinate calendars with other family members, and make sure you mark off time for all those fun things you want to do. If you don’t make the time, the time will pass by.
3)Prioritize. What is most important for you to complete this week? What needs to happen for you to go away without worry and stress? What’s the one, or 3, things you really want to do this Summer? Make a list with 3 columns, with the headings Have To, Want To, and Hope To. In each of those columns prioritize again.
4) Remember to take down time for yourself. Get still. Be quiet. Spend 6 hours laying in a hammock. This personal rejuvenation time is important in maintaining groundedness and calm.
5) Have fun! Even if Uncle George gets sauced at the family picnic and throws Grandma in the pool, as long as everyone stays unharmed, just laugh and enjoy what will soon be precious memories. Laughter heals just about anything. Summer is so short. Play whenever you can.
My busyness has been preparing for the “Living Your Business Bliss” Womyn’s Business Conference coming up this Friday. I am the keynote speaker, and am offering some workshop sessions. It’s the first time I have had the honor of being a keynote speaker, and I am super excited! And nervous. So, it’s time for me to go play a little and burn some of that off!
~~Play Big~~Laugh Hard~~Live Your Bliss~~!!
Light At The End Of A Dark Tunnel
February 22, 2010 by Coach Margie
Filed under Health & Wellness, Whole Health, divorce, emotional energy, personal growth, relationships, self empowerment
Pain. Sadness. Grief. Despair. Stress. “Uck!”, you say? I agree.
Unfortunately, that’s where I have been, to be openly honest.
Well, it’s where I was. Hence the lack of new words, in the last 2 months, on these pages.
Yet, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Actually, I am IN the light right now. Whew……sooooo good to be here.
The journey of life is not always an easy one. Try as we may, sometimes we fall down. Sometimes we can’t get back up for awhile. Sometimes we need to rely on our friends to get us through the day, or even more, the night. Sometimes we wonder if we will make it.
One thing I have learned. The universe, or God, or whatever you want to call it, never gives us more than we can handle. And when it feels like we won’t be able to handle it, it is because we need to learn how to.
The last 8 months have been one of the most challenging times in my life. A period where everything that is my life came up for question, and got turned completely inside out, when my partner made the choice to end our relationship. I’ve come to understand that it wasn’t so much the break-up, or that my partner couldn’t show up the way I hoped he would, that threw me head first and screaming into the dark tunnel. Sure, that was painful and had it’s own set of tears and grief. What had more impact though, was what got called up with-in me, what I was forced to confront, how I chose to engage in the process, and how in the end I was the one that had to figure it all out and re-design my life. Your friends can only hold your hand for so long.
Having the opportunity to evaluate everything in your life and discern the truth of it for yourself is a wild and weird ride. However, when you wake up one morning and finally accept that things just aren’t what you thought they would be, you have to do something. While it is hard to recognize it at the time, such a cataclysmic event can be a real gift. The blessing for me has been about reconnecting to the essential elements of my souls requirements-what my soul needs to live a life of authentic bliss. Isn’t it amazing how we can lose sight of what those things are sometimes?
The re-design doesn’t happen over night. (Small manageable steps, as I tell my clients all the time!) It requires deep exploration, internal questioning, values review and lots of time for simply healing. In my journey I have given myself oodles of gentleness, self nurturing and space to just be. It’s not easy. I’m a go-getter, organizer and facilitator. To not have a clear sense of what is around the corner of my life drives me crazy sometimes.
But the truth is, do we ever know what is around the corner? If I had known that the fated relationship was going to end up as it did, would I have gone forward? And if not, then what would I have lost? Certainly the rich lessons of the journey. While they came with some heartache, ultimately, the gifts I am left with for myself are ones I am grateful to have. I do not regret the journey.
And today, well, for today I am just darn happy that I made it through that tunnel! And, I’m here to tell you, if you happen to be finding yourself in some dark tunnel with no light in sight, that you will too. I just know it.
Core Fundamentals for Living Bliss
October 13, 2009 by Coach Margie
Filed under Life Coaching, Self Development, Whole Health, emotional energy, personal growth
I recently became inspired to consider what core fundamentals were operating in my life these days, and if they were appropriate for these times we currently find ourselves living in. I discovered that I needed to adjust my thinking in some areas to accommodate for the changes and to make way for continued success in my life and business. I realized that I had indeed been sucked into the fear of “things to come” and that this completely took me out of the present moment, and my ability to enjoy each moment for the wondrous gifts they are.
While there are a lot of things out there to be concerned about, and it is important to stay informed, we do not need to let any of it determine how we show up each day, nor do we need to let any of it ruin our individual bliss. We can lose material possessions, jobs and bank rolls, even relationships, but we don’t have to lose our spirit, our passion, our compassion, our connections with others or our spiritual path.
Knowing the core fundamentals that keep us inspired, hopeful, on track and present to each moment are touchstones to which we can return.
Take a moment to jot down 3-4 items, small catch phrases or affirmations, that provide a foundation for you. You may find, as I did, that you will re-access certain ideas or ways of being so that you can navigate more easily-this is the idea! Allow for these fundamental elements to flow forth from your authentic center-there are no should’s or have to’s here, only a desire to be more connected to the essence of your “Living Bliss”, whatever that is for you.
Here are my 4 core fundamentals that I am currently working with:
* Live with passion and joy
* Trust the process
* Be authentic
* Put yourself out there
What are some of your core fundamentals that can keep you happy and a float these days? I would love to hear what’s working for you.
How to Find Bliss While Tackling the To-Do List, Part 2
October 6, 2009 by Coach Margie
Filed under Health & Wellness, Self Development, emotional energy, personal growth, self empowerment, sustainable energy
Once you begin to integrate the flow of getting things done by connecting to the mood you are in, using the appropriate skill set that is alignment with that, and allowing yourself to weave among the various tasks on your list, you will find that projects become less daunting, and more things will be getting done.
The fun piece is that you only have to stay with your projects if they feel good! If you begin to feel distracted, tired, annoyed, angry, or overwhelmed this is a clear sign that it’s time to move onto something else that needs your attention. Do whatever you are in the mood for, rather than forcing yourself to complete, or continue to do, something that no longer feels good.
As soon as you feel stuck, stop! You will notice all your justifications and excuses about why you “need” to stay where you are-this has to get done, I’m already behind, etc, etc-start to come up. However, what I have learned is that the longer you try to keep doing something when you no longer have the energy for it, the less you actually get accomplished. By jumping to another skill set, you free your energy, allow the skill set you have been working with to rest, and, this is the most important part, you stop trying to swim upstream!!
Here are some benefits of making the switch:
- less overwhelm
- avoid burnout
- more energy
- accomplish more
- experience more joy
- creativity excels
- everything eventually gets attended to
- less stress
The more I play around with this method in tackling my To-Do list, the more fun I am having! I’ve started to experiment with the various skill sets, to see how I can apply them in different ways. For instance, in the past if I was working on developing a project vision, I might sit down with a pen and pad and write it out. Recently I tried painting and collaging instead to think it out, and got wonderful results. Combining dancing with housework is a real blast, making a ho-hum chore a hysterical occasion-especially if someone finds you dancing with your broom!
Give it a try. Step outside the boxes. The whole idea is to make the things we need, or want to do, fun and enjoyable. There is absolutely no reason all that exists on the never ending To-Do list has to be a drag!! (Read that line again if you have to.)
Let’s have fun. Let’s play. Let us honor the flow and rhythms of our bodies, minds and spirits while building up our muscles in all the skill sets. Scatter yourself all around, planting seeds into everything you do, or like the hummingbird drinking nectar from all the various flowers. Watch how the joy returns to your process, tasks become more fun, and you become less stressed.
Now that sounds like a project worth engaging in, yes?
