The Day of the Missing Mojo

Puck - nap guruThere are some days when your Mojo cannot be found. That was my day today. So, I said, OK Mr Mojo, you can play that hide and seek game if you want, but I ain’t gonna come looking. Instead, I took a nap, did some journaling, chatted with a friend (who totally lifted my spirits), took a walk with the neighborhood happy dog, ate some soup, and guess what? Mr Mojo came back. Imagine that. Sometimes you just gotta give in to what is and not fight it.

This is “Living Your Bliss”. Not forcing things along when the flow isn’t happening. Resting. Taking a break. Giving yourself the opportunity to rejuvenate when all the messages are telling you that is what needs to happen.

This is true both on a personal level, and within relationships too. Sometimes you just have to step back, take a nap from it all, and come back in a more rested frame of mind to your lover you just had some hard words with. Then you can think more clearly, have more compassion, be more forgiving. You have to do it with yourself first. 

Live isn’t easy. But it doesn’t have to be difficult. Give yourself a break. Let up on the need to be do, do, doing all the time. When Mr Mojo goes away take it as a sign that you need to slow down. Then curl up for that nap, or call that girlfriend that will lift your spirits, or take a walk with a happy dog. Mr Mojo will come back. Guaranteed.

The Bliss of “Heartstorming”

heart in handRecently, in a lovely conversation with a great friend, he spontaneously plopped out of his mouth the word “heartstorming”. It landed between us with this delicious sense of possibility. We agreed we had never heard anyone use this word before and imagined the possibilities of it. For us, it meant the joining together of hearts to create a storm of fabulous potential using that shared energy to design dreams, manifest desires, create community, and build support. Just saying the word seemed to create a great hush that was comforting and exciting at the same time.

Our hearts are magnificent and alive , pulsating with passion and purpose, constantly tugged by the ebb and flow of emotion, and seemingly with a mind of their own. ‎”The heart knows it’s reasons, which reasons knows not of”  says Blaise Pascal. Ahhh, isn’t this so true? How often does our heart lead us in a direction we were not intending on going in, yet go anyhow, only to discover great gifts of abundance and deliciousness on the journey?

A hotbed of emotion our hearts can be considered a conduit to our soul…it is what helps us to understand all our mixed up feelings, to conceptualize them, and to discover what course of action we need to take. Yet, the heart is the leader, more often than not. What if we harnessed all that amazing power, and worked with others to, rather than brainstorm, to heartstorm!! If we imagine that our hearts have an intelligence of their own, then it is possibly to conceive that heartstorming may indeed offer a whole new way of looking at things, that could potentially change the very world we live in.

As it turns out, a simple Google search revealed that there is indeed, already, a philosophy of Heartstorming, developed by a Father Paul Keenan. He has a book about it , where he suggests that heartstorming “helps unlock the healing potential of our emotions.” His 3 part process includes “the heart’s reaction to an experience, the mind’s reflection on the reaction, and the soul’s synthesis of the experience, resulting in a new sense of purposefulness” that he believes is a “path to lasting inner peace and fulfillment”.

When the word plopped out of my friends mouth, we were indeed heartstorming as were sharing our reflections on an experience we were having together, and it allowed us to come into a synthesis of it all. My sense is that heartstorming is all this and so much more. I like the imagery of a great big storm-you know, the kind we welcome and look forward to, such as the ones on a hot summer day-building up as we join our hearts together in a great shared synthesis of explosive power that unlocks the healing potential of our lives, not just our emotions. They say the longest journey is from the head to the heart. Maybe, just maybe, if we stopped doing so much brainstorming, and began to heartstorm more together, that journey would become shorter.

Eskimo Kiss

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Life, Love and Bliss

Time FliesWell, true to the word of my last post, I haven’t been writing here to much. Have you noticed that time just seems to speeding up exponentially lately? Holy cow! I just can NOT even believe that my last post was 3 months ago, that it has been one year since my mother passed, that we are into February. All I have to say is WOW!

I recently listened to a great YouTube interview with Gregg Braden , an author who bridges science and spirituality. He had some really interesting things to say about where things are right now astrologically, within great time patterns, polar shifts, and how that all relates to the sense of time speeding up.

Oh good, I’m not crazy.

Lately I’ve been experiencing these immense, what I have been calling, energy downloads. They just drop in and all of a sudden I am a bundle of nerves and vibrating energy that I don’t know what to do with. Sometimes it manifests as anxiety, other times as total ungroundedness, and once or twice it was tinged with a bit of fear. I was freaking out trying to figure it all out-what was causing this? What did I eat? Have I been on the computer to much? Is it that new vitamin supplement? (No, I stopped taking it and it still happened! )

And then I listened to the above mentioned audio and he talks about how a lot of people are experiencing this exact same thing and why.

Oh good, I’m not alone. It always feels better to know you are not alone!

But, lately, I have felt that way. After 4 months of travel, where I was constantly connecting with loved ones and new friends,  I am temporarily staying in a friends 1 room efficiency studio apartment to catch back up to my life and re-clarify the next phase of the journey. I’ve been real busy doing that –Bliss101Radio is pretty much all set with some amazing guests for the year, I have vision boards all over my walls, I took care of several things that were on the back burner while I traveled, I’m getting some long awaited major dental work done, and I’m sitting still for a few months!

Sitting still has a funny way of bringing everything right to you though. And for me right now, the biggest thing it brings for me is a sense of isolation. In November I was actually looking forward to some solitude and alone time. Now, I am tired of it.

Isolation is something that a good majority of people struggle with in these times. With all of our technological advances more people work out of their homes, one can take care of a majority of shopping needs via their computer, and all forms of entertainment that we used to go out for now are directly linked into our living rooms. With the number of working hours increasing as well, we have less time to socialize, or are to tired to do so. Combined with the underlining stress of the economic conditions and global events, laced with a total information overload that is enough to blow anyone’s mind, many people are left with a sense of unnameable despair, depression, disconnection, loneliness, and fear. This can lead to the urge to isolate and separate with the thought that it is somehow easier.

There is hope however. As Gregg Braden shares, we are moving into an exciting and transformative time, one that has been predicted and hoped for over the years. If you move away from mainstream news and start to dig deeper, one can find a plethora of amazing people doing really incredible things that support sustainability, community, and connection. People are craving it. The time is ripe. I, for one, am stepping on board. (I encourage you to find out what is happening in your area, and I will be speaking more about this in future posts)

U.S. Route 89So, life isn’t always easy. Obstacles come before us all the time. Sometimes we lose sight of the path. Sometimes the path takes us in directions we are unprepared for. Love isn’t always shouting our name from the rooftops, so we have to work harder to be, and give, love. Sometimes the journey comes to an end and we wonder where the heck are we anyhow!? Sometimes we feel so alone we want to cry out in anguish, just praying someone will hear us.

What I have learned on my journey is that, ultimately, we are never alone, love is always right around the corner, all we have to do is believe, and if we don’t believe to just reach out and someone will be there to remind us, to help us to believe once again. And that my friends, is bliss.

(Speaking of travel, I just finished a really great book by Robert Sullivan, called “Cross Country”. It’s a fascinating read that covers “fifteen years and 90,000 miles on the roads and interstates of America with Lewis and Clark, a lot of bad motels, a moving van, Emily Post, … kids, and enough coffee to kill an elephant”, and includes a great perspective on the creation of the US Highway system. I recommend it.)

Blissing Out and Away

October 1, 2011 by  
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mom and her two girls

WOW!! It has been a very-long-time since I have posted in my blog. Bad girl blogger, some would say. Well, to be honest, dear readers, I have been living life, and fulfilling blog writing requirements based on the latest marketing suggestions has not been my priority, rather, living, and feeling into, life has been the name of this girls games lately. 

And, a lot has happened….at the time of my last post I was on day 15 or so of a hospital bedside vigil for my mother, that lasted a total of 28 days and culminated in her passing. Don’t be dismayed, it was an incredibly powerful, profound, transforming, and enlightening time for me. The gifts she gave to me in her final days, and final breaths, are still being integrated into my spirit/soul. I wouldn’t trade that time in for anything, and I am so grateful that I have the life I do that allowed me to be there, to show up, and to have the space to put the rest of my life on hold, while I did that. That time set my life on a whole new course, brought my sister and I closer, and provided the opportunity for a master evaluation of the path I am on. I have not found all the answers. I have discovered a new perspective, and a new outlook that allows me to put aside fear, anxiety, and doubt, and move forward anyhow. 

When you sit with the womyn who has birthed you into the world, and you know that the only thing you can do is provide unconditional love to her in that moment, no matter what your history has been, and then you hold her hand while she takes her last breaths, well… it changes you. It brings home, with a whole new clarity, the idea that we can’t take a damn thing with us when we go, except the love in our hearts, and the awareness of the love we have given away. My mother waited until all of her immediate family was gathered around her, and laughing together, before she left. This spoke volumes to me and has reconnected me to the basic essentials , and elements, of life. 

And I come away with this: life is to short. Way to short. And, it can all change in an instant. Mom was living independently and just fine, at 80 yrs old. A fall, resulting in head wound, started a course of events that led to her passing. Who would have known? Who would have guessed? We must be prepared at any minute for it all to end when we least expect it. What then will we say? Will we be happy with how we have lived our life? 

Mom’s passing, and many other circumstances leading up to that time, and afterwards, has caused this just-turned-50, menopausal, life coach, laughter yoga leader, bliss-ologist, daughter, sister, communitarian, ecologist, earth/gaia girl to completely access her life and go Whoa! What are we doing here? 

The end result?  The letting go of my office. A reduction by 50% of all my belongings. The rest of it in storage. My car packed like a big suitcase. And a journey to re-discover my essence, to re-connect with my core values, and to discover the next place I am meant to be. The hope is for that to be in intentional community. I’m tired of living alone. I want to live and work and play deeply, and intimately, with people who share my values. I want to grow food and live lightly on the Earth. I want to eat, and cook, meals with others. I want to create a history with those I live with, and find support, validation, love, connection, intimacy, affirmation, encouragement, and joy an intentional part of everyday life. Life is to short. Fill it up big. Make the most of it now. Go for your dreams. Live the life you most want to live. Manifest it. Live your bliss.

It’s what I tell my clients. I need to live it too. So watch me, here I go!!

Oh, BTW, it might mean I am not here to much. Or maybe the posts will change in their focus. Or maybe I will start a whole new blog about my adventures. or maybe I will just grow food and let everything else go. Or maybe…….

 

 

 

Love For No Reason

January 11, 2011 by  
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Have you ever noticed how life has such a great way of providing us with exactly what we need, while putting us exactly where we need to be?

Have you also noticed how conditioned we are to not trust that, and to resist what the universe is offering? We tend to push against the flow, because we have our own ideas of how things should look or be, rather than believing that what is showing up is just perfect.

I’m in the midst of getting that reminder loud and clear right now. For a month I had been desperately seeking new housing, because a sudden turn of events required me to leave the home I recently had moved into only a few months prior. Nothing was showing up, and I was down to the wire. All packed up and no where to go. Then, I got a call from my sister. Mom was in the hospital, not doing well, and I needed to come home quick. In 2 days time, I was able to throw everything into storage, drop my cat off with some friends, and board the plane from AZ to CT, where I am now for an undetermined amount of time, caring for my Mom. It all is so perfectly clear now. But boy did I ever despair, resist, and question things up to now!

I think love is like this too. Someone shows up and we reject them because they don’t look like the model we prefer, or they don’t have the right job. Or maybe we believe we “aren’t ready”. We find a way to push away the perfection, allow the past to color the current moment, and despair that things aren’t the way we want.

Wouldn’t it be nice if this was all different? Well, I think there might be a way to break some of those old patterns, and to stop having the past color the current moment. Go here to learn about the new book “Love For No Reason” by Marci Shimoff, a featured teacher in the hit movie “The Secret”, and an upcoming guest on Bliss101Radio.

Marci’s fabulous book, “Happy For No Reason” has been a profoundly important book for me the last couple years, and is a foundation for my current work and coaching. So, I am real excited to partner with Marci in launching her new book, and to have her on Bliss101Radio this coming Friday.

And together, let’s find new ways to Love For No Reason in this upcoming year. Because really, what else is there?

Blissings,

Coach Margie

Check out this great video on the perfection of being exactly where you need to be.

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